Well, to be clear, the house actually belongs to my ex-wife Catherine’s folks. Catherine and her husband are visiting from California with our two children and staying there during their visit. My girlfriend Alex and I are visiting for brunch. So there’s my ex-wife, her husband, her aunt, her parents, our two kids, their newest edition, my girlfriend and me. If you are getting a slightly awkward vibe from this scenario, you are among the majority of people who consider this sort of gathering bizarre.
Here’s the bizarre thing: It’s not bizarre at all. The impossible has occurred. A permanent shift has happened inside my way of thinking that wasn’t present before. Seriously, hop into the nearest plutonium-powered time-traveling Delorean, go back in time two years, find me, and ask me if I think there’s a chicken nugget’s chance in a shark tank that I’ll find my way to complete resolution with my ex-wife, and to absolute peace after divorce. My answer would have been worse than a “no.” I would have told you that I’m as resolved and at peace as I’ll ever be. A gnat’s sneeze away from suing for custody of my children, refusing to step across the threshold of the home of my ex-wife and her new husband, holding most of the blame over her . . . I’ll show you bizarre: That was my definition of a peaceful resolution!
At this present-day brunch, I look around the house where I once resided (we had to move in with her parents for a spell). I briefly notice the furniture, the smells, the pictures, the layout of the house. And I am suddenly aware that there is no meaning attached to any of it; no burdensome memories. I am struck with the unmistakable realization that I am absolutely at peace. The world briefly stops spinning as I reflect on a time when I couldn’t have set foot inside this house without having a mental breakdown, surrounded by the dark memories and broken dreams attached in some way to every object inside those walls. And here I am, at peace with everyone present, the kids as happy as ever, with the added blessing of an amazing girlfriend with a spirit strong enough to gracefully share this experience with me, surrounded by the family of my ex-wife.
Dear friends, this is the very essence of The Impossibility Movement: Taking something which previously existed outside the realm of possibility and watching it move into the realm of what is possible. The Movement is not limited to finding peace and resolution in the wake of divorce. This is only a minor representation of what is possible. The end of world hunger, harmony among religions, alliance among politicians, a planet without war, these are among the things that are completely within the realm of possibility where hopelessness once existed.
No one ever generated anything great, powerful, magnificent, or miraculous by operating within the realm of what everyone accepted as possible. No, my friends. Operate within the realm of what is impossible with the intent to make it possible, and watch the miraculous happen.
10 thoughts on “A Surreal Moment At My Ex-Wife’s House”
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You are an encouragement. Thanks for the post. The impossibility you describe can happen if you have a healthy healing process and are willing to forgive with a pure heart.
Your hope for others shines!!
Thank you for the feedback! Likewise may you be blessed in your mission to transform those around you. 🙂
Haha… Reminds me of my Christmas Day! My ex-husband, his girlfriend, me, my boyfriend, my parents and my uncle, and the kids. It can work if you leave your ego at the door.
Love your comment about the ego. It is unfortunately the driving force behind most human actions. Thanks for reading!
Hey Tripp, thank you for taking the time to talk with Michael. He looks up to you so much and the bond you created while teaching guitar lessons will forever be there. You two remind me so much of one another….talented, deep thinkers, and a blessing to other…love you….Lynda
Hey Ms. Lynda! I received just as much of a blessing from you all. I still remember staying long past his lessons and chatting with everyone. Great memories! I intend to stay in regular contact with Michael. He’s a good man and I look forward to seeing what his future holds. 🙂
Wow. Most people never get to that point. Your children are very lucky to have divorced parents that have their act together as well as you do.
Thank you for your acknowledgement. Part of my vision includes many more working relationships among divorced couples. I have discovered much and have much to share. 🙂